I dread haircut appointments. Hairdressers wonder why I decline their offer for color. I may be asking for too much, but surely they can cut and style graying hair. I understand it’s a challenge, but it’s my head. I will sign a waiver if I must, but I don’t want to wash the gray away, pretend to be younger, or have toxic carcinogens leech through my scalp and into my bloodstream.
I am a black and white person, but the only gray I accept is on my head.
Silver – the new blonde?
Women are especially obsessed with looking younger than they are, thanks to a culture that constantly bombards us with photoshopped young bodies. You can’t even check your email without seeing depraved celeb news splashed over Yahoo or other mail servers. Milestone ages of 50, 40 and even 30 arrive with dread. Mid-life women are affected the most. Especially those women who have suffered betrayal and rejection resulting in divorce. We feel we have to look younger, be thin and dress a bit provocatively to attract a man. But really, we don’t want that superficial man. We want the man who will love who we are, not how we appear on the outside. In the online dating world for midlifers, this is hard. Here is a good perspective by a single senior who chose to keep her long graying hair. I love one of the comments: silver is the new blonde! Oddly enough, gray hair has become trendy among young women, as we see in this New York Times article on grannyhair. These are encouraging and offer hope that we’ll finally kill that negative gray hair stigma once and for all.
OK, but I’m talking about more than just gray hair.
What is with this cultural obsession with youth and beauty?
We all want to look beautiful. We are told to hide that wrinkle, lift that chin, tuck in that tummy and bump out that booty. You can cover up your blemishes, dye your hair, and even disguise your sex, but you can’t cover up your sin. Sin rots you on the inside. I can’t help but think of The Picture of Dorian Gray. Narcissist Dorian Gray (appropriately, Mr. Gray) indulges in every immoral pleasure after making a deal with the devil. He remains young while a portrait painted by an admiring artist reveals the ugliness of his corrupt soul and gets worse with each indulgent sin. While he seems to possess ageless youth and beauty, he is quite dead inside, as revealed by the aging grotesque portrait of his soul.
Think of the American way of doing funerals, which I hate. The cadaver lying in the coffin is coiffed, painted and lipsticked. Morticians do their best to make that lifeless cadaver look alive. But dead is dead. Likewise, the walking dead are those who live and breathe but are dead in trespasses and sin. As Kevin Swanson says in his sermon entitled Overcoming Evil With Good, the likes of Caitlyn Jenner are ‘dead cadavers with lipstick’. Without Christ there is no life. Outside of Christ, we are as dead as the made-up corpse.
Beauty, in our society, is directly related to youth and youth alone. You don’t see any porn sites featuring old ladies, except for that calendar published in the UK some years ago (warning: this is nauseating, click at your own risk) to raise funds for lymphoma. How pathetic that was. They did another one ten years later, more revealing than the first. Yet those old ladies were praised for their daring attitudes and they garnered much respect from our warped world. What they really need is a sense of shame for their nakedness!
Speaking of bold, daring old ladies…
I happened upon this PBS program while cooking one Saturday afternoon. Expounding on her new book, Goddesses Never Age and online course Ageless Goddess, Dr. Christiane Northrup spoke to an enthralled audience. I was already familiar with Dr. Northrup’s new-age approach in her book The Wisdom of Menopause, so I listened discerningly. You can glean some very good truth from what she says. I will grant her that much. She does have a point when she mentions ageless attitude. We should not succumb to what we’re told by mainstream media or by what I believe is a tainted health care system overrun by Big Pharma and greed. Growing older doesn’t necessarily mean losing your memory or getting brittle bones. I am tired of senior moment jokes. Stressed people in their twenties will have those same moments. When the mind is cluttered and overwhelmed by too much busyness and lack of sleep it’s hard to recall anything.
But when Northrup says ‘deterioration is not inevitable‘ she is lying. Here is where she starts to deny that we are actually living in a fallen world. Here is where she denies suffering and death that came into the world because of our sin.
Northrup’s book titles always start with WISDOM of _____. The source of that wisdom goes back to the snake in the garden. She says ‘your spiritual outlook, thoughts and beliefs need to be surrendered to the healing power of Spirit’ — ah but what spirit? pagan god? Baal? the Universe? Mother Earth? Gaia? Northrup says ‘there’s this life force within you – it’s ageless!’ Dr. Northrup talks about what she learned from people who’ve had near death experiences. Red flag. She learned ‘We don’t die, there’s only love, and why wait…You have the power within you to change everything.’ Does that lie sound familiar?
In her best sex and pleasure video she says you can have this pleasure ‘no matter who your partner is, or even if you don’t have a partner’. She says sex is ‘connecting with your vital life force’. She talks about chakras and Kundalini. Kundalini is, not surprisingly, serpent power. Enough said. These terms refer to Hinduism and yoga practices and they are extremely dangerous to your soul.
She continues on about living a joyful life. But there is no true joy without Christ! Certainly there is momentary pleasure, as she describes. But self-love and self-gratification (self-worship) leads to emptiness. It leads to death, a far cry from joyful life!
I am wondering why this holistic health conscious lady is donning a blonde bob. Does she not care what those chemicals can do to her fearless ageless brain? Her philosophy loses credibility right there. How obviously superficial. I wonder what the portrait of her true soul looks like.
What God’s Word says about wisdom, old age, life and death
I don’t want Dr. Northrup’s wisdom. I don’t want the healing power of the spirit she talks about. I want the healing power of God, the Holy Spirit. Read the entire book of Proverbs, and you’ll learn all about wisdom.
The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge,
But fools despise wisdom and instruction. — Proverbs 1:7
“The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom,
And the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding. –Proverbs 9:10
Wisdom in portions of 1 Corinthians 2: [emphases mine]:
6 However, we speak wisdom among those who are mature, yet not the wisdom of this age, nor of the rulers of this age, who are coming to nothing. 7 But we speak the wisdom of God in a mystery, the hidden wisdom which God ordained before the ages for our glory, 8 which none of the rulers of this age knew; for had they known, they would not have crucified the Lord of glory.
10 But God has revealed them to us through His Spirit. For the Spirit searches all things, yes, the deep things of God. 11 For what man knows the things of a man except the spirit of the man which is in him? Even so no one knows the things of God except the Spirit of God. 12 Now we have received, not the spirit of the world, but the Spirit who is from God, that we might know the things that have been freely given to us by God.
14 But the natural man does not receive the things of the Spirit of God, for they are foolishness to him; nor can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned. 15 But he who is spiritual judges all things, yet he himself is rightly judged by no one. 16 For “who has known the mind of the Lord that he may instruct Him?”[c] But we have the mind of Christ.
I’m not trying to be negative, but deterioration is inevitable:
“Even after my skin is destroyed, Yet from my flesh I shall see God; – Job 19:26
So also is the resurrection of the dead It is sown a perishable body, it is raised an imperishable body; 1 Cor. 15:42
For which cause we faint not; but though our outward man perish, yet the inward man is renewed day by day. 2 Cor. 4:16
Biblically speaking, with age comes wisdom, to those who walk with the Lord. It is godly wisdom, not wisdom of demons. We should be wiser than we were in our 40s, 30s and 20s. Northrup’s wisdom is demonic.
Now about that gray hair:
The silver-haired head is a crown of glory,
If it is found in the way of righteousness. – Proverbs 16:31
And yes, Dr. Northrup, we will surely die.
27 And as it is appointed unto men once to die, but after this the judgment. Hebrews 9:27
You will not meet your ‘life force’, you will meet almighty God. God is love, but He is also holy and just. Don’t ignore your sin problem, repent. You can have eternal life through Jesus Christ, the Son of God. He is the only Way, Truth and Life. If you have not yet trusted in Him and His atonement for sin on the cross, Jesus says:
“Most assuredly, I say to you, he who hears My word and believes in Him who sent Me has everlasting life, and shall not come into judgment, but has passed from death into life. –John 5:24
Old and Beautiful
Who are we as midlife women? What are we to do? Do we seek anti-aging remedies? Do we focus on outer beauty? Do we deny that we will die one day?
Sisters in Christ, you know the answers.
30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. Proverbs 31:30
Please, don’t misconstrue what I’m saying. It’s fine to color your gray hair, if you so desire. We certainly should always care about our appearance and wives should be pleasing to their husbands. Looking our best is priority. For me, that means my real best, not my fake best. But we shouldn’t obsess about looking younger or feel any less attractive because of the natural aging process.
In The Afternoon of Life: Finding Purpose and JOY in Midlife, Elyse Fitzpatrick talks about the virtuous or valiant woman of Proverbs 31. Fitzpatrick describes her in several paragraphs under the heading ‘She’s Ageless But She’s Not Young’. Take that, Dr. Northrup! And take this:
Like the giant sequoia , her life experience and her reputation haven’t been put together on a weekend makeover…This is a woman who’s lived life in the trenches, a woman who has known God, who has believed and wrestled and labored and wept and laughed for joy. She’s the biblical paradigm of godly beauty and worth – and you can bet she’s got wrinkles born from late-night watches and more than few gray hairs that grace her face and testify of her worth. -Elyse Fitzpatrick
I recommend Fitzpatrick’s book for those midlife women struggling with life changes. However, I must warn you that the author has succumbed to the awful senior moment lie and stereotypical whining in the introduction. If you can get past that, it’s a pretty good read.
Back to the beginning – the old lie still deceives!
Humanity has long been obsessed with immortality and finding the fountain of youth. There is nothing new under the sun. If all would look to the Son and believe, they will have everlasting life. Instead, they trust in scientific advancement, technology and their own foolish wisdom.
Transhumanism is an agenda that is truly shocking. These organizations are trying to eradicate suffering and actually create new ‘humans’. Avatar A will be a robotic copy of a human body, remotely controlled. Avatar B is that robot with a transplanted human brain. Avatar C will have an artificial brain and an actual human personality transplanted in it. Avatar D is a hologram-like avatar. Astonished? You can’t make this stuff up! Check out the following sites:
We heard many buzz words (humanity, brotherhood) from Pope Francis without ever hearing the name above all names, Jesus Christ. The aforementioned groups are playing god, trying to create a new creature (can’t call it man!) Appearing merciful, they aspire to eradicate all suffering. Suffering and death came into the world because of our sin. The idea that humans are basically good and we could conquer suffering and death without Almighty God is blasphemous. Both Goddess Northrup and Transhumanists are serving Satan and repeating his lie ‘you will not surely die’.
For more information on this evil agenda, see Futurism-Berean Research
There will come a time when God will destroy the works of the wicked. Arrogant intellectual scientists, politicians, and geeks currently tampering with physics, the human mind, robotics, aborted baby parts, or whatever, will finally acknowledge the One True Living God and they will gnash their teeth at Him.
The wicked will see it and be vexed, He will gnash his teeth and melt away; The desire of the wicked will perish. Psalm 112:10
To wrap up this rant on true beauty, I must go to the wisdom of a favorite dead man. J. R. Miller wrote:
There is a beauty of soul which makes the plainest face radiant, and the homeliest features lovely; which shines like a star in this world of sin. It is for this beauty that we are taught to pray, “Let the beauty of the Lord our God be upon us.”
Let that be our prayer.
Please click on the link below and read about God’s standard of beauty. Meditate on it. I will, too.